I’m not proud of it, but I must admit that there are times when I’m really good at tearing people down. Sometimes I’m mad at the person and will intentionally say something mean or rude that cuts deep and will emotionally wreck them. And sometimes, in a moment of playfulness, I’ll say something that is taken the wrong way and wounds the hearer. In the aftermath of both cases I always feel miserable and plead for forgiveness, relationships are mended, and we (hopefully) move on.
This tongue in my mouth can lift people up, or bring them down. It can encourage or discourage. It can say something nice, or it can say something mean. A friend of mine has recently been reminding me that I am in charge of my own body – and this includes my tongue as well, and the words I say. I am responsible for what exits my mouth.
There’s a certain safety in hiding behind the screen and pecking out some words, some comments, about anything and everything that we come across on the internet. In an age where we can say anything we want on the internet, it can be easy to let that spill out into real life where people are actually in front of us. I try to refrain from making any comments online about anything – good or bad – because what I perceive as a joke may not come across as such. What I perceive as a compliment may not be heard that way.
Both on-screen and off-screen I need to be more attuned to the words I speak, the words I choose to use, the comments I choose to make. Will what I say uplift the hearer? Will my words make the situation better? Will this comment add to something good? Is this the appropriate time to say this? Do I need to say this? Can I find something better to say? Am I making a positive deposit in this person’s life? It can be a challenge to wrestle with all these questions in the middle of a conversation, but it’s worthwhile. If anything, I ask myself what I would want to hear if I were in the other person’s shoes, and then say those words.
Choose good words, my friends, and lighten up this world.
much love. sheth.